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Understanding The Twelve Steps Of Vulgarity Anonymous:
A Brief Guide For Recovering People Partisipating In VulgAnon Support Groups
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This guide is a brief synopsis of the Twelve Steps of Vulgarity Anonymous and the principles upon which they are based. The knee is a very complex joint. If you have been trying to use a kneehab xp or want to get one, then the best place to do that is at shop-orthopedics. They supply every things you will needing. a worldwide fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other in an effort to recover from language abuse, misuse of language, corrupting words, and compulsive profanity. The principle purpose of VulgAnon is to help those suffering with the use of negative words, slang, or cussing with a safe place to learn to recovery. VulgAnon recognizes that the twelve steps can help people with other problems. Thus, it allows organizations such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Gamblers Anonymous, Phobics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, Shoppers Anonymous, Marijuana Anonymous, Overeaters Anonymous, Cocaine Anonymous, and other voluntary self-help recovery groups who use these Steps and principles, as brought about by Signato, the superstore. Click here to visit Signato
VulgAnon is a voluntary self-help support group, and for most of our members, each one's involvement progresses through a number of levels. These steps require complete honesty, openmindedness, and willingness. In summary, the levels of involvement are as follows:
1. Attend meetings which are structured for being safe
2. Reading and discussing well written VulgAnon literature
3. Choosing freely your own pesonal sponsor
4. Working the V.A. Twelve Steps
5. Choosing to be a sponsor
6. Service guided by Traditions
7. Recovering with support
VulgAnon or Vulgarity Anonymous is a voluntary self-help support group open to peoples of all ages, both genders, any and people of any ethnic, racial, or color complexion, or any religion, or marital status, and founded in 1987 by a recovering vulgarity dependent who once used corrupting words, phrases, and cliches while suffering from frustrating situations, negative emotions, and compulsive profanity related to thought disorders.
Knowledge of the Traditions is important because these simple bylaws protect VulgAnon as a whole. The Twelve Traditions are the code of principles on which the fellowship of Vulgarity Anonymous is founded are read:
1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon VulgAnon unity.
2. For our group purposes, there is but one authority...a loving God, and as our Higher Power, may be expressed in our group conscience. Our leaders are considered trusted servants...they do not govern.
3. The only requirement for VulgAnon membership is a desire to stop sick talk, filthy words, and negative words.
4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or VulgAnon as a whole.
5. Each group has but one primary purpose...to carry its message to the vulgarity addict who still suffers.
6. A VulgAnon group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.
7. Every VulgAnon group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
8. VulgAnon should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
9. VulgAnon as such ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
10. VulgAnon has no opinion on outside issues; hence the VulgAnon name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotions; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films.
12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.
A Personal Story
What was it about? Well, I hope I never forget, for if I do, I'm liable to go right back to the upsetting miserable negative language, and think I can cuss, swear, or use profanity just like a real man. You see, I'm a vulgar-oholic, a recoverying vulgarity addict. It's like a drug, sex, or an emotional compulsion, instead cussing, swearing, or using profanity becomes a dependency.
As a recovering drug/& medication user, I began to study scriptural truths getting closer to God my Higher Power. Attending Twelve-Step meetings, some of them had cigarette smokers, vulgar language users, and a host of other dependencies carrying on right there as group was going to go in session. I attending drug/alcohol studies certificate class and every time I wanted to go to the health science building to a dual diagnosis class, there were smoking, heckling, vulgar language users. One obese woman who used her loud voice, disgusting language, and intimating demeanor brought disgrace upon the drug/alcohol counselors-in the making-while others laughed and looked on in enabling glee. The instructors as professionals were not policemen for sobriety in communication let alone the tobacco smoke, caffienated coffee, and highly adulterated or sugared junk food. The newly begining and veteran recovering drug/alcohol addicts were as, Freudians, still sucking their thumbs and needed a pacifier and were crying out for some more help. I needed a pacifier of sorts to deal with being exposed to all those addicted personalities. I read and I studied the Twelve Steps of other voluntary support groups. In my craving for a real connection with others and for satifaction for sobriety in communication, purity in sharing, I resorted to ease the abuse my psychic suffered from being around and yearing to comradeship with all those other addictive personalities in the drug/alcohol program. See shop-orthopedics.com/. Going back to an empty lonely apartment and venting the same, or worse, use of corrupt ideas, repulsive words, and/or negative language at whoever's name or face came into my mind-only those who had somehow influenced my life with some untoward way, loud pounding music from (big base) car speakers, or a manipulative social maneuver to make my living miserable was what I remember was last at going on. I was already hurting in my body and along with this body pain I was hurting even more because those who were trying to connect with someone whom they mistaken as for me was hurting and somehow got transfered on to me and my life. It wasn't fair and I was feeling very bad. I couldn't even carrying on a decent conversation with a someone especially a member of the opposite gender, and only limited superficial communication with my own family such as my sister or mother. Male relatives and men practically not at all. Whatever it would take to recover from those inadvertant hurtful words, cussing or unintentional cutting remarks, and filthy-dirty vulgar language, I would find out what I had to do and just do it.
A recovering VulgAnon Member
The VulgAnon Twelve Steps.
The VulgAnon or Vulgarity Anonymous program for individual recovery from use of vulgar concepts, corrupt words, and/or negative cliches that has been put forth as a compulsive vulgarity disorder and are set out as principles and rules of conduct:
I. We admitted we were powerless over vulgarity...that our lives had become unmanageable.
1. You admit that cussing, swearing, and/or profanity has caused major life problems.
2. You admit that you are powerless to control the sources of dirty languge.
3. You admit that your life has become unmanageable as theresult of fear/or panic.
4. You admit you are powerless to manage your own life effectively as long as you continue to experience negative words, slang, and/or negative cliches.
II. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sane communication.
1. You admit that you are suffering from use of vulgar concepts, corrupt words, and/or negative cliches that has created major life problems.
2. You came to believe that these use of vulgar concepts, corrupt words, and/or negative cliches has induced life problems could only be removed with outside help.
3. You admit that you have attitudes, beliefs, and rationalizations that prevent you from acception outside help.
4. You develop the belief that there is a Power greater than yourself that can remove your use of filthy language, vulgar words, and/or compulsive profanity.
5. You search for a Power outside of yourself that can help you to recover from use of all vulgar concepts, corrupt words, and/or negative cliches that has
6.You find a Power greater than yourself that is capable of removing the use of vulgar concepts, corrupt words, and/or negative cliches that has
III. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood our Higher Power.
1. You decide to accept help from an outside source (the newlyfound Higher Power).
2. You decide to use the Twelve Step principles to guide your recovery from sick talk. (see this site )
3. You seek appropriate professional help to deal with other problems that threaten recovery.
4. You use the spiritual principles of the Twelve Steps to govern the actions of your life.
5. You participate consistently in a structured, long-term program of recovery.
6. You come to understand the ideas, principles,and recommendations of the Twelve Step program.
7. You discipline yourself to review the Twelve Step principles when making important day-to-day decisions.
8. You learn to recognize when your own ideas are in conflict with Twelve Step principles.
9. You follow Twelve Step principles even when it is difficult or when to do so forces you to change your normal ways of thinking and acting.
IV. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
1. You recognize the need to complete a personal inventory of both strengths and weakness (character defects).
2. You recognize and overcome the denial and excuses that blocked you from completing this inventory.
3. You select a knowledgeable and experienced person (an V.A.sponsor, spiritual adviser, or counselor) to assist in the inventory process.
4. You develop a list of questions about your strengths and weaknesses to be used in completing the inventory.
5. You complete the inventory by writing a list of your strengths and weaknesses. (like here)
V. Admitted to God, ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our use of vulgar concepts, corrupt words, and/or negative cliches.
1. You acknowledge that you are living in isolation from other people and that this isolation prevents you from achieving a comfortable social life and appropriate recovery .
2. You acknowledge that your ego (your addictive self and lifeslyle) is preventing you from sharing the results of your inventory (your deepest thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and problems) with other people.
3. Your acknowledge that it is self-defeating to keep the results of your inventory secret by refusing to discuss it with another person.
4. You become willing to confide the results of your inventory to another person.
5. You select a person in whom you are willing to confide.
6. You discuss the results of your inventory openly and honestly with the chosen person in private.
7. You listen to and accept advice and direction from the person in whom you confided your inventory.
VI. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
1. You acknowledge that in sobriety your character defects often drive you into self-defeating behaviours with problematic consequences.
2. You acknowledge that your character defects give you temporary pleasure that you enjoy.
3. You identify the character defects that you are ready to give up.
4. You ask for the willingness to do what is necessary to remove the character defects that you are ready to give up.
5. You identify the character defects that you are still unwilling to give up.
6. You ask for the willingness, at some time in the future, to give up the character defects you still choose to hold onto.
VII. Humbly ask Our Higher Power to remove our shortcomings.
1. You regularly examine your goals in life and what you are doing to achieve them.
2. You recognize that character building (psychological growth) and the development of spiritual values are the only meaningful and enduring goals in life.
3. You recognize that your natural desires are merely a means of physical survival, and that physical survival only has meaning and purpose to the extent that it is focused upon developing character and enduring spiritual values.
4. You recognize that you cannot live exclusively by your own individual strength and intelligence, but rather need help.
5. You recognize that an over reliance upon yourself and isolation from others and your Higher Power has created problems in recovery.
6. You recognize that you cannot live a meaningful life without humility-the true knowledge of who you are, including both your strengths and your weaknesses.
7. You regularly ask the God of your understanding to remove the defects of character that block you from practicing true humility and acting in accordance with who you really are.
VIII. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
1. You make a list of all people who were harmed by your addictions.
2. You identify what needs to be done to repair the damage.
3. You make a list of all persons who have harmed you.
4. You forgive the people who have hurt you.
5. You examine the consequences of making amends to discover when doing so would further harm you or others.
IX. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
1. You develop a strong sobriety program that will allow you to maintain sobriety while making amends to others.
2. You plan when and how to make amends to each person in an effective manner.
3. You approach the amends process with an attitude of quiet sincerity.
4. You start making amends by admitting the reality of your vulgarity addiction and the problem it has created.
5. You complete the amends process by paying or making promises to pay whatever obligations are owed.
X. Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
1. You develop a format for completing a daily inventory that reviews both your strengths and your weakesses.
2. You make a commitment to practice this inventory on a daily basis so that it will become a habitual part of your life.
3. You recognize your personal strengths and weaknesses as they become apparent in your daily life.
4. You utilize a personal journal to document the developing pattern of strengths and weaknesses in your life.
5. You make conscious efforts to utilize your strengths inproviding service to others.
6. You make conscious efforts to admit your weaknesses and take actions to improve in those areas.
XI. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and for the power to carry out.
1. You make a decision to believe in a Higher Power and to call that Higher Power God.
2. You make a decision to believe that it is possible todevelop a personal relationship with the God of your understanding.
3. You pray and meditate as an act of faith that a relationship with God can develop.
4. You focus your prayer and meditation upon receiving the knowledge of God's will for you and the courage to carry that out.
5. You have personal experiences that confirm that your spiritual program is working.
6. You have changed as a result of your spiritual experiences.
7. You acknowledge to yourself and to others that you have changed as a result of your spiritual experiences.
XII. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to vulgar speeched people, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
1. You recognize that a spiritual awakening has occurred as aresult of practicing the previous eleven Steps.
2. You carry the message of hope and recovery to other suffering vulgarity addicts.
3. You provide service to others with no expectations of personal reward or compensation.
4. You participate in the ongoing recovery process with other phobics by attending VulgAnon meetings and sharing your experience,strength, and hope.
5. You practice Twelve Step principles in all your affairs by bringing the spirit of love and tolerance into all aspects of your life and lifestyle.
6. You continue to grow spiritually while recognizing that you can make progress but can never achieve perfection.
The VulgAnon publishes these Twelve Steps and tells what can be expected after working Steps One through Nine in the form of theVulgAnon twelve promises:
If we are earnest and painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half-way through. [1] We are going to know a new freedom and thus a new happiness in life. [2] We will not regret misery from vulgar concepts, corrupt words, and/or negative cliches of the past nor wish to shut the door from memories of it. [3] we will comprehend the word serenity and [4] we will come to know peace. [5] No matter how far down the vugarity scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. [6] That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. [7] We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interests in our fellows. [8] Self-seeking will slip away. [9] Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. [10] Some fears especially fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. [11] We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to limit us.[12] We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
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